The number of single men has reached the highest level in the last 30 years

It seems that the days when "for 10 girls there are 9 guys" have passed. Sociologists say that there are more and more lonely men who are waiting at home only for a cat or a dog. And probably, over time, male loneliness will only grow. Who is to blame and what to do?

A Psychology Today article says that the increase in the number of single men is due to rising relationship standards. Women are tired of "pulling" emotionally immature partners, abusers and want a man to be like a "rock" of responsibility, mental stability, financial confidence and household predestination.

However, not all men are ready to comply. Often they "drift" in their teenage naivety until retirement and do not want to match the image that a modern woman paints for herself.

And by the way, psychologists say that women no longer suffer because of their loneliness, as before. They have become more financially independent, it is easier for them to afford "one-time" sex, they have learned to manage time, rely on themselves and their friends.

Based on the situation, women have become more selective. The "grandmother's installation" about the fact that "someone should be nearby" no longer works. Women began to choose. They are looking for men who are "emotionally available, able to communicate and share similar values."

For men, this means a gap in relationship skills that, if left unaddressed, is likely to lead to fewer dating opportunities and longer periods of loneliness. Not all men understand that an emotional connection is a source of healthy, long-term love. What it is - many do not understand, because they grew up in families where there was no such emotional connection, which means they will not be able to give it to a woman, the article says.

The authors of the article still reassure and argue that men are able to evolve. at a minimum, they can go through psychotherapy and find out what an emotional connection is, how it works and try to apply knowledge in practice.

It means seeing intimacy, romance and emotional connection worthy of your time and effort, experts explain.

They also emphasize that in the course of therapy, a man must definitely accept the fact that domestic violence, whether emotional, financial or physical, is taboo.

The authors of the material emphasize that now about 62% of dating sites are men. But there is also good news.

Algorithms in dating apps and other online platforms are becoming more and more complex. One advantage is that the number of more successful couples is growing. In an analysis of one of the dating apps, it was found that 90% of users rated their first date positively, and 72% indicated that they wanted a second date.